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Relationship counselling – why it may be important

Relationship counselling is often misunderstood as marriage counselling. Although many elements of marriage counselling can apply but there are also instances like employees & employer relationship, professionals and clients relationships etc. Once a relationship counsellor comprehends the problem, he works towards recognizing and harmonizing the situation to help manage the situation better.

How does relationship counselling work

Expectations of the client will be a predominant factor in how relationship counselling for couples work. It is never like a one size fits all. Every conflict has different underlying reasons and therefore different solutions. But, in most instances, relationship counselling does help in finding a way out of the imbroglio and put the relationship back on a smoother path. Some people expect to transform their relationships as well as their lives, while for others, it could be finding solutions to specific problems to move forward with lesser anxiety and higher confidence.

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Duration of relationship counselling can vary between 1 and 3 sessions where short-term therapies can resolve the problem. But, it could be anywhere between 12 and 24 sessions in situations that are complex such as clients facing issues with their marriage. 

The therapist will try to gain a deep understanding of the history of the relationship targeting the client’s emotions and working on such changes that may be necessary to bring about a happier and healthier life between the parties involved. For instance, clients facing problems with their marital relationship may have a communication gap, excessive expectations from each other, sexual issues, an absence of understanding and trust, and perhaps even an excessive involvement from the in-laws. 

After the therapist has completely pictured the trouble spots, he works in unison with the couple to find a solution that can restore happiness for the couple and steady the course of their lives. In the process, the therapist may try different approaches and focus on what works best for the specific situation. In some instances, both partners in a marriage may not talk much and that could be more challenging for the counsellor/therapist to work their way around.

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The therapist will try to gain a deep understanding of the history of the relationship targeting the client’s emotions and working on such changes that may be necessary to bring about a happier and healthier life between the parties involved. For instance, clients facing problems with their marital relationship may have a communication gap, excessive expectations from each other, sexual issues, an absence of understanding and trust, and perhaps even an excessive involvement from the in-laws. 

Generally, each session with the counsellor/therapist takes about an hour and the counsellor/therapist asks a series of questions for the parties to answer. This will create a picture of the underlying causes of the conflict and how the parties feel about it.

Relationship counselling for specific aspects of a relationship

Relationship counselling is not confined to differences or problems within a relationship. A relationship counsellor can also be helpful in situations like whether one should get married at all, whether to raise a family, were to set up a home etc. In situations like these, relationship counselling is helpful in understanding each partner and his/her viewpoints better and in a different perspective and avoid potential conflicts.

Can relationship counselling guarantee change?

Unfortunately, the answer to this question is NO. Relationship counselling is not like a composition of chemicals that guarantees to cure or at least works to suppress the symptoms. The role of the counsellor to analyse conflict points in the relationship impartially, speak to both parties in the conflict and fathom the conflict itself to find solutions.

Some conflicts may be caused by misunderstanding and when parties to the conflict have the opportunity to speak out in isolation, the crux of the problem emerges and that gives the ability to the counsellor to find a solution. Often times lean communication or absence of communication has been seen to accentuate a conflict encourage the parties to take an irreversible stand. The human ego is in the forefront of such situations and the counsellor is called upon to work carefully around to extricate the parties and show them light at the end of the tunnel.

Nearly every relationship suffers periods of trials and tribulations

Most relationships suffer some kind of trials and tribulations across its length and feigning ignorance will only complicate the issues. In some instances, tiny differences can blow out of proportion and quickly grow into a major problem threatening the very roots of the relationship. This can happen between couples, friends, at the workplace, or social circles. If you get help from a professional relationship counsellor, you can quickly salvage the situation and bring a fresh bout of energy and understanding into the relationship.

Relationship counselling to improve understanding and communication between the parties

Most relationships suffer some kind of trials and tribulations across its length and feigning ignorance will only complicate the issues. In some instances, tiny differences can blow out of proportion and quickly grow into a major problem threatening the very roots of the relationship. This can happen between couples, friends, at the workplace, or social circles. If you get help from a professional relationship counsellor, you can quickly salvage the situation and bring a fresh bout of energy and understanding into the relationship.

Nearly every relationship has individuals at its core and individuals bring their own personality, personal history, hopes, desires and needs into the relationship. Consequently, even an exceptional relationship fails to see eye to eye on each and every issue. To be together sharing an aspect of our life or our lives itself with another human, compromise, discussion and negotiation are invariably needed.

Most relationships suffer some kind of trials and tribulations across its length and feigning ignorance will only complicate the issues. In some instances, tiny differences can blow out of proportion and quickly grow into a major problem threatening the very roots of the relationship. This can happen between couples, friends, at the workplace, or social circles. If you get help from a professional relationship counsellor, you can quickly salvage the situation and bring a fresh bout of energy and understanding into the relationship.

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The ability to communicate with another human to share our fears and needs and listen to the property, fears, and needs of the other person, therefore, is a necessary tool to maintain a healthy relationship. Relationship counsellors are trained to challenge and recognize the current communication habits in individuals and teach ways of more effective communication. Often, a mere encouragement to engage in honest and open communication during the counselling process itself can set individuals on a path to calmer and more open communication. With the communication skills getting stronger (listening as well speaking) individuals are empowered to resolve small as well as big problems and work towards stronger relationship even in times of acute stress. Relationship counselling helps in rejuvenating emotional connection and restoring fading intimacy.
Emotional intensity is in the forefront of most new relationships followed by strong sexual desire and feeling of generosity and warmth for each other, particularly in the case of the couple relationship. This is also called the ‘honeymoon’ period when individuals spend most of their time in bonding together. They become very close to each other and their attraction gets stronger. However, when the relationship progresses and becomes familiar, individuals tend to lose the connectivity because the daily grind starts interfering with the love affair. There is a paucity of quality time to be together, and people tend to get too tired to enjoy each other or life itself. Relationship counselling can help rejuvenate this lost intimacy and agitation restoring the emotional connection.
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Thus, even if you suspect trouble brewing in your relationship, never hesitate to seek relationship counselling to help you nip the trouble in its bud.

Is it Time To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level? Choosing the perfect engagement ring can help!!

When it comes to relationships, there’s nothing wrong with wanting everything best. Afterall, you are all set to start the most important shopping in your life perhaps – your engagement ring; it helps to know about the various aspects of your engagement ring such as the metal used for the band, the diamond, the prices, colour, care and similar aspects.

Choose Metal: White Gold, Yellow Gold, Platinum, Diamond or Rose Gold

White Gold vs Platinum

Platinum and white gold are popular choices to get the perfect setting for diamond rings. These two metals differ primarily in price and composition though they look identical to the naked eye. Platinum is more expensive compared to white gold and because of the higher density of platinum, more platinum is needed to make your ring. Together, you should expect to pay significantly more when your choice tilts towards platinum. In absolute terms, if you choose white gold for the same ring, your cost could peg at about 50% of what you would pay for a ring with platinum as the base metal.
18/14 carat gold jewellery primarily represents an alloy of gold and other metals like copper, zinc, nickel etc. with a possible rhodium plating since gold is a softer metal. 18-carat gold means75% gold while 14 carat stands for 58.3% gold.

Platinum generally comes with a higher purity of about 98% with the rest being made up of silver and rhodium. Platinum is stronger and lasts longer and is also the heaviest among precious metals with the highest density. Pure gold (24 carats) needs to be mixed with other metals to enhance the workability and lend strength to the finished product.

Caring for platinum vs. White gold

You won’t notice any significant change in appearance between white gold and platinum though rose and yellow gold are distinct when it comes to appealing from colour. You need to be significantly more careful with platinum since it is much less scratch resistant compared to other metals. You would also need to clean up and polish platinum at regular intervals to retain its smooth appearance. In the case of gold, replating or repolishing may be needed only once or twice across a lifetime.

Platinum is ideal for rosy and fair skin tones and is hypoallergenic. It also has a higher status because of its rarity and price.

GOLD

There are at least three types of gold commonly traded, and these are rose gold, white gold and yellow gold. Though the looks are similar, it is the composition and colour that set them apart. Price, as well as personal preferences, will guide your choice of gold for the engagement ring.  “An engagement or wedding ring is always going to be a significant purchase, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get the very best value for your money” says Joseph of Joseph George Jewellery at collin street in Melbourne. “Rings can be customised to find you something within your budget.”

White gold is presently more popular compared to yellow gold because it is more affordable and looks similar to platinum. White gold is also alloyed with stronger metals compared to yellow gold giving it more durability and scratch resistance. White gold also complements white diamonds better when compared to yellow gold. However, white gold will need dipping at intervals of 4 or 5 years to retain its lustre and colour. The process of dipping is affordable, and most jewellers offer the service for free. Nickel is often mixed with white gold which could be allergic to some individuals.

Yellow Gold

Yellow Gold comes as an alloy of pure gold and zinc or copper in varying proportions. The carat number indicates the volume of pure gold in what we are getting.
24 carat is 99.9% pure while 22 carat means it is 91.7% pure, 18 carats 75% pure and 14 carats 58.3% pure. Thus, a higher carat number is indicative of the pure gold content, but as a metal, the durability of pure gold is less compared to other metals. Therefore, the usual practice is to use 18K or 14K gold for mounting wedding rings and engagement rings.

Among the three gold colours that are generally available, yellow gold is most hypoallergenic. The yellow gold is most popular for engagement and wedding bands and therefore considered appropriate when you are choosing vintage settings. Yellow gold is also the purest regarding colour compared to the other variants. It is also the easiest on maintenance when compared to the other two types of gold. Yellow gold is extremely malleable, and therefore jewellers can manipulate it in a wide range of ways. This extreme malleability helps jewellers create all those intricate designs, particularly with earrings, necklaces and the like. Yellow gold complements darker and olive skin tones well and matches well with diamonds of lower grade or colour.
Yellow gold is subject to scratches and dents and needs regular cleaning and polishing.

Rose Gold

Rose gold encompasses the entire family of rose, red and pink shades of gold. The rose colour results from the combination of copper with gold and when more copper is used in the alloy, the resulting gold appears more as red than yellow. Rose gold has 75% gold and 25% copper making it 18-carat gold. Rose gold is the preferred style for women’s and men’s rings. It is considered romantic due to the pink colour. Rose gold is also more affordable relative to other metals since copper used in the alloy costs significantly less compared to gold. It is also very durable because of the strength imparted by copper. Rose gold also complements all skin tones. The downside of rose gold, however, is that it might cause allergic reactions in some people. Though rose gold is more in style, its availability may not be as good as yellow gold or other options you have.

Conclusion

While your personal preferences will drive the choice of metal for your diamond rings, it helps to consider the price as well as metal composition. For instance, platinum and white gold are identical when you look at them with naked eyes, but the difference in price is significant. It could be a great idea to spend a major part of your budget on the diamond than on platinum. When a budget is important, it is important to choose the jeweller to whom you can trust and the best way to stretch your dollar is to be an informed buyer. This way, you know for sure the value of what you are getting.